Kelli: There was a time in my life when I thought I’d never have children. Never be married. “Men” were non-existent. I didn’t see them anywhere and hell, even if I had seen a few I wouldn’t have known it because my view was being blocked by little boys. Then, something strange happened. I was twenty-four and looking forward to continuing my high paced life. I had plans to live in a major city, party every night and chase the dream of my childhood, acting. In a flash, I began picking up weight and having pain in my abdomen. The Doctor informed me quite blankly that I was pregnant. That was the end of my childhood though childish behavior seemed to persist.
March 26th I was blessed with a son who looked me squarely in the eye and cried for love, attention and money. What an ironic joke the Lord had played on me, I was now expected to raise a man. I looked at my son’s father and wondered how we’d ever make this work. Hence, The Black Couple was born. Calamity was all around us, everyone was having romantic issues. Women hated men and men loved and left women. How could I raise my son to be the very image I thought impossible and non-existent,a real MAN!?
Luckily, I was blessed with a partner who was asking all the same questions and just as interested in being the man his sons would aspire to emulate. Together we began this blog and together we failed at it. Life events happened and our blog took a backseat. A mentor of mine told me quite frankly, “ Excuses lead to poverty,” so no matter our reasons for failing in the beginning, we apologize and humbly begin again. We begin now as a MARRIED couple!!!!
We sealed the deal and made a commitment not only to our family but helping others see that marriage is a realistic goal for ALL of us. Marriage isn’t dead but the ideals behind it have changed. Derrick and I shall continue to explore the African-American relationship and figure out how we can put people back on the path to healthy and successful relationships! So glad to be back!
