Comments for The Black Couple http://theblackcouple.com Blogging Black love! Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:45:02 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on Who Is The Black Couple? by KimRob http://theblackcouple.com/about#comment-1127 KimRob Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:45:02 +0000 http://theblackcouple.wordpress.com/?page_id=2#comment-1127 Hope all is well, we miss you guys in blog land! Hope all is well, we miss you guys in blog land!

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by Rashidah Ferguson http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-407 Rashidah Ferguson Mon, 14 Nov 2011 03:34:04 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-407 congrats! Kelli and Derrick, good to see you back!!!! congrats! Kelli and Derrick, good to see you back!!!!

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by Iwannabefierce http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-286 Iwannabefierce Mon, 31 Oct 2011 19:31:46 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-286 So glad to see that you guys are back. Congratulations newlyweds! -Shakiyla So glad to see that you guys are back. Congratulations newlyweds!

-Shakiyla

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by Mary http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-8 Mary Thu, 13 Oct 2011 07:21:40 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-8 Congrats. I found your blog accidentally. I am a late 30s frustrated black woman. I have waited for a black man. I had a white man who loved me ask me to marry him. Both of our families resisted and we cowardly decided even though we had had 3 years of blissful committed love to quit. We thought we would never surmount the trouble. I regret that. Since we broke up I have had trouble and woes from black men. I have opened up my hearts to men I thought were good black men but they want to go from woman to woman to woman. They have babies by women (not me, no children) and then want to tell me that they have left those women and the children behind and they are "free" to date me. What can they give me but heartache? What can they promise me but that they will move on to another black woman when they are done with me? I ache. I try to make things work with men I hope and pray are good black men but they know how much we black women ache to be happily married and they want to deny us marriage and commitment. I have so much to give and I am tired of the rejection. One day I was walking down the street with a white male friend. He's just a friend -- I know for certain because he is a straight looking GAY man. So these black men say to me, "Why you couldn't go with one of us?" I have tried. I actually said right back to them, "I waited and waited for you but you never showed up." What can be done about what black men are doing? Rejecting black women to marry white women? Rejecting all marriage and commitment and hoping from one woman's bed to another's? Having babies with 5-6 women without ever marrying them? And I know personally 2 well education brothers with good jobs who have respectively 3 children by 3 women he (#1) never married and 6 children by 5 women he (#2) never married. What can we do to change our society and culture? Someone please write a letter to Chris Rock, to Barack Obama, to Steve Harvey, to whoever can get on the TV and explain to black men that this is not the way to do it. Congrats. I found your blog accidentally. I am a late 30s frustrated black woman. I have waited for a black man. I had a white man who loved me ask me to marry him. Both of our families resisted and we cowardly decided even though we had had 3 years of blissful committed love to quit. We thought we would never surmount the trouble. I regret that. Since we broke up I have had trouble and woes from black men. I have opened up my hearts to men I thought were good black men but they want to go from woman to woman to woman. They have babies by women (not me, no children) and then want to tell me that they have left those women and the children behind and they are “free” to date me. What can they give me but heartache? What can they promise me but that they will move on to another black woman when they are done with me? I ache. I try to make things work with men I hope and pray are good black men but they know how much we black women ache to be happily married and they want to deny us marriage and commitment. I have so much to give and I am tired of the rejection. One day I was walking down the street with a white male friend. He’s just a friend — I know for certain because he is a straight looking GAY man. So these black men say to me, “Why you couldn’t go with one of us?” I have tried. I actually said right back to them, “I waited and waited for you but you never showed up.” What can be done about what black men are doing? Rejecting black women to marry white women? Rejecting all marriage and commitment and hoping from one woman’s bed to another’s? Having babies with 5-6 women without ever marrying them? And I know personally 2 well education brothers with good jobs who have respectively 3 children by 3 women he (#1) never married and 6 children by 5 women he (#2) never married. What can we do to change our society and culture? Someone please write a letter to Chris Rock, to Barack Obama, to Steve Harvey, to whoever can get on the TV and explain to black men that this is not the way to do it.

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by Marc http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-7 Marc Tue, 11 Oct 2011 20:52:12 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-7 Congratulations! Its great to see y'all back! Congratulations! Its great to see y’all back!

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by KimRob http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-5 KimRob Wed, 05 Oct 2011 15:48:12 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-5 I'm glad you all are back! I'm glad Derrick is feeling well, the last time I read he was in a car accident. I’m glad you all are back! I’m glad Derrick is feeling well, the last time I read he was in a car accident.

]]> Comment on Love and Marriage by L Boogie http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1#comment-3 L Boogie Mon, 03 Oct 2011 21:39:18 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1#comment-3 \o/ So happy to have you back here! And so happy to hear that you guys are married now! Congratulations! I look forward to reading all of your new work, and can't wait to see the discussions that begin as a result! :-) \o/

So happy to have you back here! And so happy to hear that you guys are married now! Congratulations! I look forward to reading all of your new work, and can’t wait to see the discussions that begin as a result! :-)

]]> Comment on Ain’t No Way by Gwriter85 http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1014#comment-200 Gwriter85 Fri, 06 Aug 2010 21:18:06 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1014#comment-200 I'm glad someone else recognizes the impact that slavery has had on black relationships. Even now, almost 150 years after slavery was abolished, it effects us. I don't think people realize that white people in America had a 250 year head start on us. It's only been 60 years since we've regained the right to vote so that tells you something. Personally, I grew up with a father in my home. Looking back now I appreciate him being there. I give my father alot of credit and respect because he didn't have a father in his home but he tried to give his three boys something better. He wasn't perfect, especially as a husband to my mother, but he was there. That's more than I can say for many of my generation's fathers and that's why we're still dealing with this problem today. I’m glad someone else recognizes the impact that slavery has had on black relationships. Even now, almost 150 years after slavery was abolished, it effects us. I don’t think people realize that white people in America had a 250 year head start on us. It’s only been 60 years since we’ve regained the right to vote so that tells you something.

Personally, I grew up with a father in my home. Looking back now I appreciate him being there. I give my father alot of credit and respect because he didn’t have a father in his home but he tried to give his three boys something better. He wasn’t perfect, especially as a husband to my mother, but he was there. That’s more than I can say for many of my generation’s fathers and that’s why we’re still dealing with this problem today.

]]> Comment on Can Christians Be Gay? by Gwriter85 http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1047#comment-211 Gwriter85 Fri, 06 Aug 2010 21:06:36 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1047#comment-211 I'm gonna have to agree with the ladies. While I don't agree with homosexuality, it still doesn't change the fact that he is your son. The Bible never preaches for us to hate, only to love people in spite of their imperfections, whatever they may be. And not to get into this debate but just because someone feels like they are gay today doesn't mean they'll feel the same way next year or ten years from now. Like the ladies say, you can show him that you love him without agreeing with his lifestyle. Tell your friend to stay encouraged and let God take care of the rest. I’m gonna have to agree with the ladies. While I don’t agree with homosexuality, it still doesn’t change the fact that he is your son. The Bible never preaches for us to hate, only to love people in spite of their imperfections, whatever they may be.

And not to get into this debate but just because someone feels like they are gay today doesn’t mean they’ll feel the same way next year or ten years from now. Like the ladies say, you can show him that you love him without agreeing with his lifestyle.

Tell your friend to stay encouraged and let God take care of the rest.

]]> Comment on Can Christians Be Gay? by Kimberly Albritton http://theblackcouple.com/archives/1047#comment-210 Kimberly Albritton Fri, 06 Aug 2010 17:01:44 +0000 http://theblackcouple.com/?p=1047#comment-210 I agree with 2blu2btru! Just because he is gay and God frowns upon that doesn't mean that he wants him to stop loving his son. My cousin came out to my Aunt several years ago. She cried her eyes out. It wasn't a shock to me or some of the rest of us because we saw it coming. Ofcourse she wishes her son were not gay but she loves him inspite of. His father also had a hard time with it but I think he fully embraced his son's lifestyle prior to his passing. As an adult he often sends money home to help out his mother, he lives a healthy lifestyle and he is by all accounts, A MAN!!! I understand a man's p.o.v when it comes to finding out that the boy you tried to raise in your image only better doesn't want what it is believed all men should, a good woman. What I think your friend has to realize is that although his son is gay, it doesn't make him less of a man. He may still enjoy sports, playing ball, and all the other "guy things". He simply loves differently!!!!!!! Ofcourse, with anything that our children do which disappoint us, it will take him sometime to get used to. All he can do is love, support, and pray for him. Wishing that he was not gay will not change the fact that he is. Blaming himself and thinking that there was something more he could do will only result in further deteriation of their relationship. He has to accept what he has been told and choose to love his son beyond his sexual preference. I don't think the is much you can say to him Derrick. I think you just have to do what good friends do, Listen!!!!! As long as his love for his son outweighs his feeling towards homosexuality, he will find his way. I agree with 2blu2btru! Just because he is gay and God frowns upon that doesn’t mean that he wants him to stop loving his son.
My cousin came out to my Aunt several years ago. She cried her eyes out. It wasn’t a shock to me or some of the rest of us because we saw it coming. Ofcourse she wishes her son were not gay but she loves him inspite of. His father also had a hard time with it but I think he fully embraced his son’s lifestyle prior to his passing.
As an adult he often sends money home to help out his mother, he lives a healthy lifestyle and he is by all accounts, A MAN!!!

I understand a man’s p.o.v when it comes to finding out that the boy you tried to raise in your image only better doesn’t want what it is believed all men should, a good woman.
What I think your friend has to realize is that although his son is gay, it doesn’t make him less of a man. He may still enjoy sports, playing ball, and all the other “guy things”. He simply loves differently!!!!!!!
Ofcourse, with anything that our children do which disappoint us, it will take him sometime to get used to. All he can do is love, support, and pray for him. Wishing that he was not gay will not change the fact that he is. Blaming himself and thinking that there was something more he could do will only result in further deteriation of their relationship.
He has to accept what he has been told and choose to love his son beyond his sexual preference.
I don’t think the is much you can say to him Derrick. I think you just have to do what good friends do, Listen!!!!!
As long as his love for his son outweighs his feeling towards homosexuality, he will find his way.

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